Domestic violence has become a hot topic in the media as of late. It's something that deserves our attention and energy to change. Whether the violence is against a woman or a man, whether it is physical, emotional, or verbal...it needs to stop. Relationships are built on a foundation of trust, honesty, love, and affection, not power, greed, and control. Christi Paul of CNN wrote a fascinating piece on why our culture is asking the wrong question when it comes to domestic violence. She says that we should not be asking "Why does she stay?" but ask "Why does he hit her and why is no one stopping it?" When someone you love exerts power and control over you in a supremely negative way, it can change you. It can make you fearful, isolated, and make you begin to doubt yourself. It's moments like these that it becomes incredibly important for someone to step in and stop the negative cycle. To do that, our culture needs to begin by changing its foundation: create a tighter community presence, educate on domestic violence, find healthier anger management techniques, and KNOW that it is not the victim's fault. When it comes to domestic violence, what do you know to think or do? Do you blame or do you help? Do you stare at the "wreck" or help prevent further harm? What do you do?
"Why don't they just leave?"
This may be a question that you have asked yourself when faced with the sad and fearful situation of a man or woman in a relationship plagued with physical, emotional, verbal, or psychological abuse. You may know someone in a domestic violence relationship or you may have seen media representations in television, movies, or even the news. Either way, for many it can be difficult to understand just why a person would stay in such a destructive relationship. Leslie Morgan Steiner tells her story of finding herself trapped for a time in such a relationship. She breaks down the stereotypes of the type of person thought to succumb to a violent, controlling relationship and explains what it can be like when a person's whole world is manipulated. She provides compelling insight on the domestic violence victim and abuser, and what it can be like when a person is able to leave.
A healthier, happier you.